TMI Tuesday: Let's Talk About Sex(uality), Baby!

Let’s talk about… well… just me, actually.

I think most people at this point realize that sexuality can be extremely fluid, at least for some people. Some of us may go through many changes which affect our identities. I certainly have. I’ve run the gamut and come back to the start, I suppose. So, let me take you on a journey.

Like most kids who grew up kind of sheltered, I assumed I was straight. I knew I liked boys, so I couldn’t be gay, because gay girls only liked girls, not boys. And that was what I knew: Gay™ or Straight™. Read More


Monday Musings: I'm so Damn Tired.

I’m in a great deal of physical pain, at the moment, thanks to a pinched nerve in my shoulder and a tight muscle in my back that makes my entire right arm feel like it’s in a vice grip. I should start doing yoga.

I’m also in an extreme amount of emotional distress waking up and heard about Las Vegas. A friend of mine lost a friend. Other friends are still waiting to hear back about loved ones. My brother and his wife lived in Vegas for many years and her mother still lives there. I’ve never started crying so quickly after waking up. Read More

Sunday Sweets: Mini Chocolate Pie

So, while my mom and I were at Target the other day, I saw these little mini graham cracker pie crusts and thought, “Yes. Tiny personal pie. How could that possibly be a bad idea?”

This was the best worst idea I’ve ever had.


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Blog-tober… or something?

So, I’ve decided to try to do this Blog-tober… post every day in October*… thing. Partially because I think it will be fun and partially because next month is National Novel Writing Month and it will be a miracle if I find the time to post on my blog.

I forget how I heard about Blog-tober and I’m sure there’s probably some sort of prompt list for things like this, but I’m not going that route. I’m just going to (kind of) post whatever I want each day as a way for you all to get to know me as a person. I say “kind of” post what I want, because I like themes and categories (and alliteration) and stuff like that, so I’m going to stick to certain types of posts each day:

  • Monday Musings: Just me talking about life or whatever.
  • TMI Tuesday: The (probably) NSFW and deeply personal stuff.
  • Witchy Wednesday: I’m a witch and I don’t talk about that nearly as often as you might expect considering my blog is called Cupcake Witchery.
  • Thankful Thursday: If you’ve followed my blog for a while, you probably remember that this used to be a regular thing, where I would post about what I was thankful for that week.
  • Friday Faves: Just stuff I like, shameless promotion of friends and material goods. I have no affiliate links or anything like that; I really just want to spread the love of good shit so it can keep going.
  • Sartorial Saturday: Outfit(s) of the day/week. Or at least something fashion related.
  • Sunday Sweets: I will start baking again if it effing kills me. Alternately, Sunday Shorts: Some small piece of flash fiction, because I’m a writer and baking every week will make me incredibly unhealthy.

Admittedly, I probably won’t stick to this schedule after October, because I don’t really have the time or energy in my life right now to blog every single day. But, I might keep a few of them going (like bringing back Thankful Thursdays, because that really made me feel better about things and I don’t know why I stopped). And, of course, like I mentioned, November is NaNoWriMo and I really, really, really want to get some work done on my book, which means less time for other things.

So, yea. That starts tomorrow. Whoo!

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*I reserve the right to stop posting at any time, due to time constraints or my own mental health.

Personal Collage Project (aka nightmare personal exposé presentation)

On Tuesday, I presented my “Personal Collage Project” for my communications class. It went as well as could be expected. I got the full fifty points, so I guess I nailed it. My voice shook a lot from nerves, but I think everyone thought I was just emotional because of some of the subject matter. Whatever, I’ll take it.

I was considering posting my speech here for everyone to read, but, ah, funny thing…

I can’t actually remember what I said. Read More

I started shaving again after a year and you should still do whatever you want with your body.


I’ve mentioned in the past that I have a love/hate relationship with shaving. I don’t like performing in-shower acrobatics and pulling muscles, but I also don’t like getting my hair snagged in my clothes or that sweaty, itchy feeling during the summer. Read More

Sorry, I Can't Come in Today. My Brain has the Flu.

Yesterday, I wrote the rough draft of my first essay for my English class. I printed out two hard copies and stuck them in my folder so I would be prepared for our peer review discussion in class. I was done. I was ready. I was proud of myself. Read More

School is Going Well

I’m better at social interaction than I would have guessed. Both of my classes are heavy on discussions, speaking, and interaction. This gives me more than a little bit of anxiety (I have chronic social anxiety, for those unaware).

But, you probably wouldn’t have guessed yesterday. Read More

General Education? Seriously?

Can I just rant about college requirements for a moment, please?

When you think of “general education requirements” you probably think of things everyone should know, regardless of what career path they plan to take. Everyone needs to know how to do basic math. Everyone needs to know how to read and write. Everyone should know the events which have happened in our world (history) and how our world works (science). Everyone should have an understanding of economics and politics. And I might even concede that everyone should participate in some kind of self-development.

Also, though I don’t think it is necessarily required to function in the world and workplace, I think it’s a very, very, very good idea that everyone learn a foreign language.

So, why is it that the so-called “general education requirements” for California State University are so damned specific? Read More

White People and Cheese

A friend of mine got me started on a thing over on Facebook and now I’m bringing it here because I can. For those of you not in the know, I love food and I love science, so I frickin’ love food science. I’m not good at making nutritionally sound choices (yet!), but I love nutrition.

So, I’m going to talk about one of my favorite weird nutrition facts:

White people like cheese so much because we can eat it.

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Little Mental Illness Pick-Me-Ups

I’m lying in bed as I write this. I woke up at 10:00 this morning, lay in bed for two hours, then fell back asleep for another two hours. I have a list of things I wanted to get done today written in my planner, but I don’t think that’s happening. Instead, I’m eating popcorn and watching TruTV’s Top Funniest.

I’m mulling over some political questions, like whether hate speech should be protected under the first amendment, and is it really a “peaceful protest” if the point is to promote hate against certain groups (which says nothing for the… you know… death which occurred)?

But, I don’t want to talk about those things, right now. I don’t even really want to be thinking about them, but it’s tough not to.

So, instead, I’m here with distractions, because maybe I’m not the only one thinking about these things and wishing they could just have five minutes where everything doesn’t seem bleak and hopeless.

First, I want to share this amazing Autostraddle article on self care: All the Small Things: 5 Simple Self-Care Methods for Your Daily Routine. It’s amazing and I recommend it to everyone who might need a little more enjoyment in their lives.

Amazon offers a ton of free ebooks for Kindle. Here’s “The Paranormal 13 (13 free books featuring witches, vampires, werewolves, mermaids, psychics, Loki, time travel, and more).” I’m not sure of the quality of stories, but you can’t argue with free. If paranormal isn’t your thing, you can go to whatever your favorite genre is and sort them by price low-to-high. You’ll get tons of free ones right there at the top. [I ordered so many self-help how to talk to people books, guys.]

Here is one of the most comprehensive lists of websites for dealing with anxiety and calming down I’ve ever seen, put together by Tumblr user iammissanna.

And finally, as if Arya and Brienne of Tarth’s swordfight on Game of Thrones (S06E04) couldn’t have been any better, here it is with lightsbaers BECAUSE STAR WARS.

Stay safe and sane out there, kids.

I love you all.

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The Bibliophile's Nightmare

I’ve been putting off considering this for a long, long time, because just the thought makes me sick to my stomach. But…

My walls are closing in on me. I think I need to get rid of some books.

The horror. Read More