Blogtober 2017, TMI Tuesday

TMI Tuesday: Halloween > Christmas (the TMI part is WHY)

It’s Halloween, witches!

I love Halloween. I’ve always loved Halloween. As a little kid, I couldn’t think of anything more fun than dressing up, have everyone in the neighborhood tell me how cute I am, and getting pounds and pounds of free candy. I mean, come on. That’s the dream. Continue reading “TMI Tuesday: Halloween > Christmas (the TMI part is WHY)”

Blogtober 2017, LGBT, TMI Tuesday

TMI Tuesday: A Gender? Agender!

When doing a perfunctory search of my blog, I was surprised to find that, aside from my “hard reset” post, I haven’t once mentioned my gender identity. I’m surprised by this for two reasons:

  1. Gender politics are kind of the hill I will die on.
  2. I have embraced being out more in the last six months than I ever have before in my life.

So, here it is: I’m agender. Continue reading “TMI Tuesday: A Gender? Agender!”

Blogtober 2017, TMI Tuesday

TMI Tuesday: It's Not a Sex Thing!

You know what’s super annoying? When someone finds out that I’m kinky and immediately thinks I want to have sex with them. News flash: I really, really don’t. I really almost never want to have sex with anyone.

Kink and kinksters get a bad rep. Now, I won’t say that the BDSM community doesn’t have some serious problems with predators and abusers, but you know what? So do vanilla communities.

Even stepping away from the “kinky people are all rapists!” mentality, vanilla people tend to assume that kinky people are sexual deviants who like to find all sorts of weird ways to stick this into that to make an orgasm. And, witches, that couldn’t be further from the truth (for me, at least; for most of the kinksters I’ve met and talked to in my life). In fact, I’ve never had an orgasm as a direct result to kinky/BDSM play in my life.

Because, here’s the thing: For me, kink and BDSM isn’t about sexual gratification.

It’s about emotional gratification. Continue reading “TMI Tuesday: It's Not a Sex Thing!”

Blogtober 2017, LGBT, TMI Tuesday

TMI Tuesday: Let's Talk About Sex(uality), Baby!

Let’s talk about… well… just me, actually.

I think most people at this point realize that sexuality can be extremely fluid, at least for some people. Some of us may go through many changes which affect our identities. I certainly have. I’ve run the gamut and come back to the start, I suppose. So, let me take you on a journey.

Like most kids who grew up kind of sheltered, I assumed I was straight. I knew I liked boys, so I couldn’t be gay, because gay girls only liked girls, not boys. And that was what I knew: Gay™ or Straight™. Continue reading “TMI Tuesday: Let's Talk About Sex(uality), Baby!”