Back when I first started prepping for Blogtober, when Saturdays were supposed to be for fashion posts, I initially intended for the last Friday Free-For-All to be a kind of diary post of what I’d been up to this month. Then I nixed the fashion posts in favor of diary posts and had to come up with something else to do for this last Friday!
I didn’t have time to do another craft post or anything like that. I thought about posting some photography, but I’m actually planning to post my photography on a different site (details to come when I’m back from my NaNoWriMo hiatus).
What to do, what to do?
How about spreading a little love, huh? I have had so much support over the last couple months and I’m so grateful.
Last time I did a blog recs post was back in January. You can check that out here (and be sure to follow all those wonderful folks (the one’s who haven’t deleted or stopped posting, anyway–I’m so sad, some of my favorite people have gone inactive). People with real lives to take care of aside, there are still incredible active bloggers on that list and you should go give them some love!
But, my list of blogger friends has grown this year and I think it’s time to do another recommendation (especially since even last time that was hardly every one I could recommend to you). So, this Friday Free-For-All is a Follow Friday! Whoo!
OKAY STORY TIME, because I know Allen just read that was like, “Bish are you serious right now? You almost didn’t follow me? You shady ho.”
So, here’s the story there: When Allen first started commenting on my blog, I still didn’t quite know what I was doing. I was baaaaaaad at replying to comments (I’m still not great; I can’t hold a conversation to save my life). I was also overwhelmed because I had followed a billion people and my reader was so crowded! I had just culled my subscriptions list and was being very, very, very selective about who I followed to avoid getting overwhelmed again. At the time, I was mostly interested in following other women/AFAB people (because I am an AFAB people and I wanted to follow blogs I could really relate to) and I could tell from Allen’s site he wasn’t a woman so I was hesitant to follow back.
And because I was soooooooo awful at replying to comments and didn’t follow him back at first, I fully expected him to eventually be like, “Okay, this chick is rude as hell,” and unfollow me, or at least stop commenting. But he never did. He commented on at least half and probably closer to damn near all of my posts. I think Allen has more comments on my website than I actually do.
So, when I finally started to figure out networking and managing my subscriptions and stuff, I expanded my blogging horizons beyond just woman/AFAB bloggers (and I will admit, that is mostly because 90% of the women/AFAB bloggers I found were “mommy bloggers” or fashion bloggers and I am neither a mommy or fashion-forward, and I realized that just because we share chromosomes doesn’t mean we have stuff in common go figure). I remembered this guy who always commented on my stuff and followed me on Twitter and Instagram (when he still had Instagram) and was like, “You know what? This dude has been super engaged and interactive and that’s exactly the kind of reader I want and I should get better at interacting so that I can keep him as a reader,” so I finally followed him back. I was still #TheWorst at interaction for a while, but the second I did–holy crap.
Once I opened that door of following him and replying to things, Allen came bursting in, declared, “WE’RE FRIENDS NOW, BITCH!” and it’s been an epically awesome party ever since.
So, the moral of this story is two fold: 1) If you show up in someone’s comments enough, they will definitely notice you, and 2) DON’T LIMIT YOURSELF TO FOLLOWING ONE TYPE OF BLOG, BECAUSE I MISSED OUT ON LIKE SIX MONTHS OF THIS FOOL’S ANTICS AND THAT IS FKN UNFORTUNATE.
Anyway, yea. Don’t make the same mistake I did of putting off following him. Just go follow Allen right now, because you won’t regret it. Go on. Go do it now and come back. I’ll wait.
Like last time, that’s not even all of the incredible people I think you should follow. But, we’d be here forever if I tried to list everyone and I really should eat something.
Definitely go check them out! Give them follows! Click the link up top to go to my last Follow Friday post and go follow those people, too! Everyone is amazing and I love them!
And I love you all, too.
Are you awesome? Do you like awesome things? Then stop by my shop to pick up a t-shirt or mug and let the world know about your unapologetically authentic awesomeness!
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