Sex-Positive Celibacy

Here’s a little-known fact about me: This past June, on my thirtieth birthday, I took a one-year vow of celibacy and am considering maintaining abstinence until I enter into a serious, long-term commitment (but not necessarily marriage—which is another blog post entirely). This fact is little known because this is the first time I’ve told anyone outside my own brain, because what if I fail? Then everyone will… honestly probably not care, but I’ll still feel bad.

But, it’s not really a vow if I’m not allowing myself to be held accountable (and it’s a needed fact for this blog post to make sense), so there it is.

This might come as a shock to some of the people who know me, because I have always considered myself to be sex-positive. In fact, I still do. Read More

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Life is That Thing That Sometimes Hits You Like a Truck When You’re Not Looking

When I revamped my blog, I decided I didn’t want to make anymore random, nonsensical, stream-of-consciousness posts which amounted to little more than a voyeuristic look into the train wreck of my personal life. And, I’m sticking to that.

I also still want to share what’s going on in my life with you all, because you’re amazing and I love you and sharing is caring. And also, life caused me to miss last Friday’s post and I have a compulsive need to explain myself so you won’t be angry. Read More

It’s Not the End of the World

I don’t like talking about political things too much, anymore. When people can justify taking children from their parents and putting them in internment camps, I know there is nothing I can say that will change their minds. A person needs to blind their self to science, logic, and compassion to look at what is happening and not be horrified. Read More

Crafting: Journal Cover

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Sorry for getting this post out so late! I forgot my film class started this week, so I kind of had to rush to catch up with it a little bit (everything’s good now; all caught up) and just didn’t have time to draft up a post! Oops! Now that I know class has started, I’ll be better able to manage that time.

Anyways, on with the post! Read More

Our Lives Matter

I’ve been very quiet regarding last week’s news about Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. What is there I can say that countless others are not already screaming from the tops of their lungs with incredible desperation? Of course, everyone knows that healthcare, and mental healthcare particularly, in this country is broken, except for all the people who can actually do something about it. Talking about that would just be preaching to the choir.

But, it feels wrong to remain silent. Read More

Happy-Happy Birthday-Birthday!

I turn thirty in two days (on the 10th if you don’t feel like doing the math).

It seems inconceivable to me. I used to joke that I never thought I’d live this long. Honestly, I think a part of me really didn’t think I’d live this long.

Because I go to a community college where most of the students are younglings fresh out of high school, I get a lot of people assuming I’m younger than I am. When people find out my age, most of the time I’m met with, “Oh, I thought you were younger than that!” Generally, people assume I’m somewhere between 20-24.

Of course, I get it. Context matters and I’m surrounded by younger folks. Some people don’t look their age. Some people are a bad judge of age. I’ve mistakenly thought people were younger or older than they really were. So, I understand.

It doesn’t make it any less annoying. Read More

Happy Pride Month!

This isn’t a “real” post, but I wanted to pop in to wish all my LGBTQ+ readers a happy Pride month! Whatever your sexuality or gender, I see you. You’re valid. Even if certain purists want to take this month to tell you you’re not, you are.

If you’re bisexual, you’re valid.

If you’re pansexual, you’re valid.

If you’re asexual, you’re valid.

If you’re trans, you’re valid.

If you’re nonbinary, you’re valid.

If you just prefer to stick with “queer,” you’re valid.

If you’re questioning your sexuality or gender identity (or both), your struggle is real and you are valid. (I’m also here to talk if you need.)

If labels aren’t really your thing and you just love who you love and do what you do, you’re valid.

If you’re anywhere else in between those things, and I just can’t think of your specific label off the top of my head right now, you’re valid.

I see you. You’re awesome. Be proud.

I love you all.

What to Do When Your Sacred Space… Isn’t, Anymore.

I’ve written in the past about my favorite spot in Southern California (quite possibly my favorite place in the world that I’ve been to so far)—the area I consider to be my sacred space, the place I go when I need to unwind and reconnect to my soul and Providence. The Meditation Garden at the Self-Realization Fellowship in Encinitas, CA is a calm, quiet place, perfect for meditating (obviously), relaxation, and quiet reflection…

Until the weekend or summer hits. Read More

A Little Kindness Goes a Long Way (even if you’re not feeling kind)

What I’m about to write happened on my way to math class last month. I was coming off a church service which had been incredibly eye-opening for me and I was just… I wanted that great feeling to continue. I was making an effort to remind myself that there are more important things than this temporary life. Read More

I’m Back!

I kind of took a little impromptu hiatus there, didn’t I? Did you miss me?

If you’ve popped by the blog or poked around at my social media recently, you might have noticed something a little different. If you haven’t, let me fill you in:

I have totally and completely revamped my blog! I have a new layout (still slightly under construction), a new about page, and a new name! The Cupcake Witch is now… Read More

How to Make Money When You Are Too Crazy to Work

These aren’t just for those of you suffering mental illness. These are also good side hustles if you don’t have a lot of time to work a regular job (because I can’t be in class and at work at the same time) or you have little kids you need to be home taking care of. Read this, then go get paid!

Damn, Girl. Get Your Shit Together.

It is my sincerest hope that this post doesn’t resonate with most of my readers. I hope you can wake up in the morning, brush your teeth, pour yourself some joe, and work a long and productive day at your nine to five job, five days a week until you die… at your desk.

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But I wanted to put a resource out there for my readers who have bouts of “I am just too fucking crazy right now to work a real job.” Because despite what we may think, it happens to the best of us.

I have very good mental health. I wake up happy, I don’t experience any kind of explosive emotions (unless, of course, I see dogs locked in hot cars or someone chewing really loudly then, naturally, all bets are off). For the most part, I’m a pretty stable Sally.

That being said, all of my…

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Research, Explore & Experience Witchcraft Your Way

I’m not much on reblogging things, because my blog is basically a diary so I tend to keep it personal and share things on Twitter or Facebook if something moves me. But this is SO IMPORTANT for new witches (and is even a good reminder for those who’ve been practicing for a while). I cannot recommend this post enough.

The Witch & Walnut

research, explore & experience witchcraftI have to say I have been working on this post for sometime now and kept going over it again and again, trying to keep it short and to the point. This post is dedicated for new Witches that are not sure where or how to begin.

I get a lot of questions about where to begin, what do I do, how do I do it? what do I read, who do I talk too? How do I know if its right, wrong, real and genuine. Here is my answer…..

One thing I was taught from childhood from my grandmother was this…. Every Witches path is different, what you are meant to learn you will be taught, and the lessen will present itself to you. Its important not to force yourself to learn and accept something that does not resonate or make sense to you. After all, you are the…

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